5 Tips to Unhook From Fear
CoachingÂ clients deal with their fear challenges comes up all the time as the number one hurdle when making change.Â
Here are five tips I recommend to clientsÂ (and have personally integrated into my life). You may recognize many of them. Reminders can be a great thing because it is so easy to forget what we know! And, if you don’t use the tools you have when you need them….well, that’s a whole other topic!
1. Practice daily gratitude. Expressing and feeling gratitude generates joyful thoughts and positive emotions. Fear focus on the glass half empty. GratitudeÂ celebrates the glass half full. Recognizing your daily blessings, big and small evokes peace and lifts the spirit. To play with some wonderful gratitude exercises I wrote about months ago, click here.
2. BREATHE! Taking several slow deep breaths will slow downÂ rapid heartbeats and bringÂ relief to anxiety. In Eckhart Tolle’s Book, A New Earth - Awakening To Your Life’s Purpose, he suggests taking breaths to interrupt thought. He says you cannot breathe and think at the same time. I have found that the conversations we have in our heads (our self-talk) areÂ a source of intensifying fear. The next time you become aware of your fearfulÂ or negative thoughts, take some deliberate breaths!
3. Come back to the present! Where is your attention? Focusing on the future? So often, our thoughts revolve around all the stories and dramas we make up in our headÂ about our lives. WeÂ imagine worse case scenarios, what if’s, and spin tales that skew perspective. If there is real danger, your response is valid. So, look around and rejoin the present. It’s what’s happening NOW.
4. Your mind is not necessarily your friend! Become the observer of your self-talk. Are the words you are telling yourself true? Productive? Are your words speaking what you mean to say or are you repeating statements out of unconscious habit? Begin to challenge the inaccuracies of your self-talk with facts and statements that are true. Look for evidence in your personal history of successes to back yourself up with more positive thoughts. And, pay attention to prioritizing personal time to have fun, re-energize, and fulfill your needs. Negative thoughts, irritability,Â and reactions intensify when people are overextended and depleted. Remember, you’reÂ the author ofÂ your own story. How’s that workin for ya?
5. Cultivate a spiritual relationship. Deepening your inner spiritual connection with God, Higher Power, Buddha - whatever you believe, will strengthen your confidence, faith and trust in the face (andÂ illusion) of fear. In my own journey through fear, my spirituality has been one of the most powerfull ways I have unhooked from fear. Today there is a wealth of information and resources for anyone seeking spiritual growth and enlightenment. I have several here
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