On a call yesterday with one of my mastermind groups the question of defining productivity was raised. One of the women was sharing about how busy she was.
In addition to her own media relations company, she has been working on launching a new spiritual network site and preparing for her second book campaign.
Her commitments have kept her working weekends, long hours into the night and she was hoping for some personal time this weekend. She also said her spiritual practices and the activities that feed her spirit and body have been sorely sacrificed to respond to the demands of her deadlines and client needs.
Another member said she was feeling an exhaustion she had never felt before. After four long years of pursuing a life purpose and passion, miracles were popping up all around her and she was having a hard time keeping up with everything. There was still so much to pull together and she was hoping to have one day to just sleep decompress.
Both ladies are high energy go, go, go women with a strong work ethic and a pull to be productive especially when the opportunities arise.
What does that really mean?
And according to who?????
I was facing a similar question this past week.
Last weekend, a dear friend gifted me with the opportunity to become a Oneness Blessing Giver. The weekend is called “The Oneness Awakening Course”.
The program began on Friday evening and ran through Sunday night. What an incredible experience! I played full out – opening myself to experience and participate in all of the exercises, healing, heart openings, and deepening with Source (God). The group was amazing, the environment was magical, and the facilitator was skillful and loving.
She suggested we take at least three days to integrate the weekend especially if we wanted to offer any blessings to our folks.
The next day I felt dopey. All I wanted to do was rest, sleep and do my spiritual practices in between working with a couple of clients I had already scheduled. So, I gave myself permission to take the day for myself.
The next day I still felt sluggish, foggy, and physically tired even after sleeping deeply the night before. So, in between some prior appointments and a little bit of work, I rested.
Guilt started creeping in.
Was I being too self-indulgent?
I wasn’t being PRODUCTIVE, right? I had work to do and I was just lying around!
I resisted the urge to do more and rested. Frankly, I didn’t have the energy, passion, or focus to push.
By the third day, I felt a little more energized and the pull to rest was still very strong.
I was reminded by my friend Anita Pathik Law who wrote a blog post on Chemicalization:
She wrote: ”For many of us, it can feel like the age old “two steps forward, five steps back.” What was all happy, harmonious and easily working, suddenly (or so it seems) seems to fall apart. I see this in spiritual development and healing all the time. The newly found nirvana is met with an earthquake of contrary energy.
We feel tested in our new level of faith and feel like the honeymoon is over. It’s painful and messy and tests us in huge ways. And, it is normal! In fact, this universal phenomenon actually has a name and is called chemicalization.
Emmet Fox says this, “It seems as though everything begins to go wrong at once. This may be disconcerting, but it is really a good sign. Suppose your whole world seems to rock on its foundation. Hold on steadily, and let it rock, and when the rocking is over, the picture will have reassembled itself into something much nearer to your heart’s desire.”
The challenge is not giving up five minutes before the miracle. The opportunity is to allow the natural process and not give into the potential doubt that can come when faced with a barrage of “evidence” that is contrary to your faith, and the commitments made from your newly expanded consciousness.
New awareness requires a chemicalization of sorts – an integration and re-patterning—that shakes everything up and out of you so you can decide what to keep and what to release. Our belief bag needs to get dumped so we can truly choose, from this new vibration, what we will continue to carry into the creation of our future reality.
Catherine Ponder, in her book “The Dynamic Laws of Healing”, says “Chemicalization results when an old set of ideas, an old way of life, tries to hold on, while a new and better way of thinking is trying to appear.”
Thank you Anita! The exhaustion I was feeling was part of my own chemicalization process! Prioritizing my self-care to support my renewal and integration was essential.
Was it productive?
Allowing myself the time and space to just “be” helped me to gain greater clarity and intuitive direction about some of my next steps.
Being productive isn’t all about how much you do or based on your ability to prove how much you have accomplished. Or having to earn something to be given the right to relax, slow down, play…
I believe true success is independent of what you do; rather it is about who you are and how you show up in the world, spiritually awake or asleep.
Taking time to rest, eat well, have fun, connect with loving relationships, nourish yourself when your body and soul is crying out is an act of love that will fortify you, lift your heart, open your creative juices, invite prosperity, new opportunities….
We service our cars when they need maintenance so they will continue to run well and yet we can easily neglect our own needs until we create something dramatic or painfull to catch out attention. Yikes!
Creating sacred space to commune with your SELF – mind, body, and spirit takes nothing away for what may feel to be important. Tuning in to respond to your needs and soul urgings is part of the continuum of living an inspired joyfull life.
When we feel vital and alive, we are at our most productive and creative because we are manifesting from love and joy.
Challenge Your Rules
I have to…
If I don’t do this I will be…..
I can’t have this until I
I can’t say no because if I do I…
To be successful I
I have to work hard to…..
Whose rules are those????
It’s one thing to have guidelines and values to live by that support you in personally and professionally flourishing as well as consciously evolving.
It’s another to be living by standards that hold you hostage and suck the life out of you.
If you struggle with giving yourself permission to have greater balance in your life, take a look at some of your rules. Do they expand or constrict you?
These are new times. Traditional ways of working, living, being are falling apart. Old paradigms, rules, standards are shifting to allow us a greater sense of freedom to become the true creators of our reality.
We are redefining our relationships, businesses and ourselves. We are experimenting with new ways of thinking, feeling, and doing things that can feel scary, strange, and even undeserving. This is new territory and it is unfamiliar.
What’s exciting is that we have the opportunity to create a whole new reality, individually and collectively through the choices we make every moment of every day.
What is your heart crying out for?
What are you denying yourself that it’s time to say yes to?
What choices will you make today to align with your SELF?
Which rules need to be changed?
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