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Forgiveness: Barrier or Breakthrough to Living a Soulfully Abundant and Vibrant Life

mirror, rumi1“Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set someone free and discovering you were the prisoner.”

As I was returning from running some errands and thinking about my upcoming four-week Forgiveness program beginning on May 29, I began thinking about my mother..

When I was in my late 20′s my mother told me she no longer loved my father and that she was unhappy with her life. In my parent’s generation talking about feelings and thoughts wasn’t the norm.

The fact she came to me was huge. At the age of 27, I had no words to guide or console her. I was as lost as she was.

So, feeling stuck in the “bed she made” and too terrified to make any changes, she sucked everything back in and never spoke about how she felt again.

Five years later, my mother who was a vibrant, healthy woman, was diagnosed with leukemia. And at the young age of 66 my mother died.  She found a way to leave her marriage and her life.

I believe my mother was filled with regrets, self-anger, and a deep need for forgiveness that eventually turned into dis-ease. When she died, she was finally free.

That conversation with my mother was a life defining moment.

Years later I realized that I had been harboring resentments towards myself for not being able to help my mother in her time of need. Even though I worked through a lot of healing around feeling that I had “abandoned” her because I lacked the words to comfort and guide her, my breast cancer diagnosis in May 2012 revealed some deep unforgiveness I had not yet healed.

The relationship between your beliefs and carrying pain from the past stresses the auto-immune system to be vulnerable to create dis-ease. For the body’s intelligence to return to optimal health is a multi-level approach rather than focusing solely on the symptoms. Forgiveness being closure through peace and love.

Without forgiveness there is no closure; to no ability to let go and move forward. As long as you feel emotional charges anchored in anger, blame, resentments, and judgments, there is more forgiveness work to do. Learning “how to forgive” in your heart …is a process not a technique.

That is why doing the inner transformational work, working with healing modalities that feel right for you is so critical as well as having a strong community of spiritual support and a bond with God.

My health experience was full of Grace and blessings that allowed me to lift many burdens from my heart and my body.

That’s why I am so deeply committed to the inner healing and transformation work. I repeatedly say how critical it is to have the guts to look in the shadows. And that’s why I go into those dark places myself. I don’t want my life to be filled with regrets, anger, and resentments or to be too afraid to really LIVE. And I don’t want to create illness so that my life is limited by health conditions that could have been prevented!

Do you?

I feel my mother speaking to me today and reminding me of how heavy a cost we pay when we are lost in fear and suffering. How much we give up when we allow our fears and subconscious beliefs to hold up captive from fully living the life we were born to.

And how much pain we experience when we are separated from ourselves and that Divine spark when we resist the truth of who we are and live in our illusions.

Wherever you go, you take your stuff with you. And the only path to true liberation for your Light to shine brightly is THROUGH those dark places.

Suffering is a choice. Love and grace is your birthright. Forgiveness is the pathway to living a rich and vibrant life.

On May 29, I am leading a four week Journey through Forgiveness.

Your life can begin to change in ways you cannot fully comprehend. That’s what happened for several people who came through the Forgiveness program a few months ago and in the other Pathways to Awakening journeys.

Read their victories

I’ll show you how to take the next steps to liberate yourself without having to do what my mother did.

Take a moment and listen to your wise self. If you are meant to be in this program with us, sign up now. Give yourself this gift and the world will also benefit from your act of self love.

Take advantage of the early tuition that expires this Friday, May 24 at midnight EST. Choose from two payment options to make your registration easy.

This may be one of the most important programs you attend this year.

Learn more and sign up here

Love and blessings,

Lorraine

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Why Forgiveness Can Feel Difficult

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Without forgiveness life is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation. - Roberto Assagioli

So often people think they have forgiven themselves and others but they really haven’t.

Without true forgiveness we can’t let go and move on. We end up dragging around unresolved hurts and disappointments in our heart,  on our bodies, and that haunt our thoughts.

There is no resolution because there is no peace. And because relationships are the cornerstone of our life experiences, we are continually given experiences that break our hearts open for deeper compassion and love.

Several reasons why you might be struggling with forgiveness

You have an attachment to what happened. You are still struggling with accepting what you did or didn’t do, what another did or what others continue to do. Your struggle and resistance creates your misery which is a choice and an opportunity to forgive yourself!

Whenever you have a strong negative reaction to another is an opportunity to look at what you are dis-owning within yourself that is showing up to be loved and accepted – a quality, a behavior, an action to be forgiven.

We are mirrors for each other and as long as we have someone or something to blame for our life circumstances, we never have to take responsibility for our role in what we create from our past and our present.

To allow Grace and love in, you must surrender your attachments, your resistance to accepting whatever is happening in each moment, your expectations, and your control; to be compassionate with your own humanness and be open to allow The Divine to guide your life experiences.

This is the shift we are experiencing on the planet today!

If you resonate with what I have written and want to feel more peace and love within yourself as well as experience greater abundance in your life, join me on May 22, for Pathways to Awakening, Journey Through Forgiveness. Register by May 17 at a special tuition that expires on May 18.

This four-week liberating journey through forgiveness is an advanced program designed to support you in healing the past, get free from beating yourself up and sabotaging your efforts, and deepening your connection with God.

In four weeks you will have multiple opportunities to unlock the doors to have more financial abundance, rewarding relationships, vibrant health, meaningful work, passion, more love, the freedom to be authentically you ….and so much more with the Divine guiding this journey.

The only thing you have to lose is your pain. What you have to gain is…well…limitless.

Sign up here

Love and blessings :D
Lorraine

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It’s My Birthday. Celebrate With Me!

My birthday is this week and I want to celebrate it with you!

I love receiving gifts and I love giving them too.

For my birthday I have some surprises I am excited to offer you as readers to my blog!

With Life continuing to be a wild ride, having what you need is essential to move through each experience without suffering; to flow through bumpy times with courage, trust, and Grace.

My passion and commitment is to be a resource for you to release your fears and emotional burdens, liberate your True Self, and prosper on your life path.

Last year I create a slew of audios and programs designed to promote inner healing from past pain, create emotional shifts, and foster a deeper relationship with the Divine.

I also revised my acclaimed fear audio program into a robust self-study program that works with you from the inside out to transform your fear into power and courage. The guided meditations are especially powerfull with theta brainwave technology to create healing shifts with your subconscious.

Last month I added a BRAND NEW self study program called “I Am Revealed” which is a 10 course series to build a solid internal foundation; a critical base to weather life’s “earthquakes”. Many folks are missing this piece!!

Soooooo for the next 48 hours, through Tuesday, April 24 noon EST, you will save 30- 49%  (up to $98) off all my audios, eBooks and both of these self-study programs.

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>> Save an instant $50 off Transform your Fear Into Power and Courage Self-Study program (no coupon code needed) Reg. $197. You pay $147. Access your copy

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Choose what calls to your heart. Trust your guidance.

Be sure to make your selections before Tuesday at noon, April 24!

Thank you for inviting me to be a part of your spiritual journey!

Love and blessings,

Lorraine

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Are You A Yes Butter….? How To Neutralize Resistance And Live A Rich Life


“You must find the place inside yourself where nothing is impossible.” ― Deepak Chopra

Change. Some people hate it; some people love it; some people intentionally create it. No matter what you think or feel about change, it is a constant in life.

What do you want most in your life? More money, a loving relationship, health, to make a difference in the world, prosper doing what you love, have more fun…?

If you work with affirmations, vision boards, visualizing meditations, gratitude journals for small portions of time each day and put the rest of your attention on negative thinking, all the positive imagining you do will be negated by the negative charges you are sending out into the Universe.

Everything is energy and vibration. If you wish for the best and imagine the worst consistently, guess what you will manifest?

I’ve been guilty of sabotaging my dreams and efforts because of fears and old beliefs about unworthiness. Not only did my mind kick into all the reasons why what I wanted was impossible or too difficult, I also created overwhelm so I wouldn’t have to do anything! Or, I was saying I wanted something half-heartedly and without being fully committed. One foot in..one foot out.

Sound familiar?

I realized I was sending mixed messages to the Universe by holding myself back and hiding out from fully showing up to Life.   I was creating drama and suffering by scaring myself out of Life.

Yes, I want this but….

No more

I chose to be done with “yes, but” and faced my resistance head on.

Guess what happened?

Doors opened.

Miracles happened.

Grace poured in with tons of love and abundance.

It’s been very cool…

Now I live more in wonder and curiosity.  I am not willing to allow my mind to keep me from the good stuff.

How about you?

When you want something do you really go for it?  Or do you use these reasons and excuses to rationalize why something is impossible before taking one step to find out whether it is true?

  • It’s too hard
  • I can’t afford it
  • I don’t have the time/it’s not the right time
  • I’m not smart enough/good enough
  • It’s too scary
  • It’s not possible because…
  • I don’t deserve it

Yeah, but….

Yeah, but….

It is important it is to be clear on what you really, really want. Too often we get caught up in what we think we should want or someone else’s dream.

Exercise: What Do You Really Want?

Take some time for contemplation and self-reflection and write your responses to:

1. What is one thing you really, really want?  Feel into your heart’s longing and passion.

2. What makes what you want so important? What will you get from having what you really want?

3. What will that add to your life that you don’t have now? (How will that change your life?)

4. Is this the right time? Do you have room in your life to receive what you want?

5. Do you have want you need ? (Systems, circle of support, space…?)

Now stop. Breathe. Feel into having what you really want. Notice your thoughts, emotions,  and body sensations.

Does your body feel expansive or constricted?

Play with Resistance

What resistance comes up when you begin to dream about what you want?

What favorite dramas, excuses and reasons do you use to tell yourself no to having what  you want?

What is one thing you will do to stretch out of your emotional “no” box?

It might be something that scares you that you know in your heart is a step you MUST take. You might need an accountability partner, coach, or group to help you move and keep moving.

As long as you keep using the same old blah, blah, blah  story and excuses, you will not move forward.

The truth is you don’t know for sure what is possible or what you might be capable of now if you don’t take that first step and the next. Your past does not dictate what your present and future will be. Neither does your current circumstances unless you believe that things will not improve. AND you do not know what God is creating for you to bring you higher.

You are either being led by fear and suffering or faith and trust.

When I want something badly enough and feel that intuitive guidance to take action, I can still get caught up in some resistance. That a signal for me to stop, take a few deep breaths, bring myself back into the present moment, and connect with God.

Within a short time, sometimes a few seconds or minutes, I can feel the heaviness lift, my mind clears, and I feel more connected inside.  Doing the inner work has shown me how to shift from inner chaos to a calm inner center.

When you want something badly enough you have to be willing to put consistent energy into following through. You must be willing to do whatever it takes to have what you are yearning for.

You must be willing to see life though a different lens; one that shows you that perceived obstacles are stepping stones and pathways to your dreams.

You have to be willing to ask for what you want, be vulnerable, look and feel silly, make mistakes, or feel scared to create the life of your dreams. It also takes commitment, passion, and tenacity to persevere.

And you must be willing to challenge and let go of the thought patterns and beliefs generated by your EGO that keep you separated from the deeper truth of who you really are.

Life is a journey of faith, trust, and courage to boldly go where you have never dared to go before when you know in your heart you must take that next step.

If you have a quick “impossibility’ response and you allow “no” beliefs to rule your life, you will continue to miss windows of opportunities that may end up as regrets.

The real question is, “How badly do you want something and what are you willing to do or be to have it?”

Life is meant to be lived not observed.

Don’t believe everything you think!

The story you tell is the story you live….

PS: My Soul Circle group is forming for April. Have the support of kindred spirits to neutralize “Yes, but”  to start living a rich and vital life. Learn more

Blessings,

Lorraine

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Being Engaged And Getting What You Need On Interactive Virtual Events. Are you Missing Out?

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Opportunities abound to attend a multitude of online calls and programs that invite interaction. It’s easy to sit back, take notes or just listen and experience the energy of the call. Many programs are pure teaching while others invite group participation that creates a very rich experience for everyone.

Those are the kinds of calls I enjoy the most. I love the group dynamics when folks are really engaged. The comments, contributions, and questions always enrich the conversations because we are walking our journeys together!

Even though virtual events offer a degree of anonymity, they can still feel daunting. Some folks listen to everyone else and stay in the background.

The idea of being vulnerable can feel foreign and threatening. Opportunities to have support can be uncomfortable and confusing especially if you don’t know what you need and what to ask for.

For example: I invited my subscribers to attend a Q & A FREE call on March 2 to ask me questions and share any challenges they were struggling with. As registrations came in, most people did not submit any questions.

I was puzzled. Why aren’t you asking me questions?????

Here was an invitation to pick my brain and people weren’t speaking up. I’m so used to jumping in with both feet and getting right into stuff, that I can forget that not everyone is at the same place of comfort in being transparent and my idea of engagement is not universal.

When opportunities to attend interactive virtual events arise, how do you engage?

  • You might have questions you don’t even know you have.
  • You might have ideas and thoughts you can’t articulate in words.
  • You might be afraid to express and disclose because you feel too vulnerable or fear sounding foolish/needy/rambling…
  • You might have all sorts of beliefs about being quiet and just listening (not seen or heard)
  • You might think you have nothing of value to contribute to the conversation.

Can you relate?

And if you are new to calls/teleseminars being open to questions and comments, you might wonder what kinds of comments or questions would be acceptable in that context?

Perhaps, you should use to the time to ask for more information or to clarify a point that is being covered?

Offer a challenge that you are currently having?

Comment of what was said that resonated or validated something for you?

Most hosts will suggest ways to engage or give you some guidelines to participate. I always invite folks to ask for clarity in any program I teach especially because language and words have different meanings for us all.

Another person’s question or comment might spark something in you that you wish to share to enrich the conversation. Your comment might be just what someone else needs to hear. Another point of view is added. Conversations become layered with rich comments that inspires the group. I see that happen on calls all the time.

In one of my programs, I had the pleasure of meeting a special woman who believed that she had no right to express her heart and that she should keep her voice silent.

Throughout the program, she was invited to speak whenever she felt she had something to offer or had a question. Everything she shared was rich and meaningfull for everyone.

She found her voice is small courageous steps, testing the group’s openness to receive what she wanted to express. Each step deepened her courage and confidence.

It was a joy to see her overcome the past conditioning to reclaim her voice and own her wisdom. Like watching the phoenix rising from the ashes to soar.

We all want to feel connected and fear being hurt, judged or rejected.

So how do we shift from feeling separate to becoming a part of greater whole?

We must be willing to s-t-r-e-t-c-h out of our comfort zones and take risks.

Whether the conversation is one-to one or virtual, engaging is critical to getting what you want and need. To engage in the fullness of life, you can’t be sitting on the sidelines.

You might not know what you want or need until the sincere longing of your heart is revealed through engagement.

Play with the idea of reaching out and connecting more with others by choosing your small steps where you feel the most safe and supported. Test people and situations that you resonate with and be open to be surprised.

Look for opportunities to be a part of communities with kindred spirits for more personal support. Engaging with others who feel like “family” can provide a safe haven where miracles can happen and breakthroughs become common. That’s the power of Love and Grace!

In fact, I have two invitations for you!

My new Soul Circle Group is forming Now

And….. I am launching my new Soul Café’ beginning March 19, 2020.

I love working with groups.

Choose from two opportunities to experience and engage with a powerfull, loving community of kindred spirits.

Which one calls to your heart?

Take an action and get engaged in getting what you want and need.

Come play with me.

Let’s create magic together! :D

Blessings,

Lorraine

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Taking Your Power Back From Worry And Fear


Worrying about something that may or may never happen costs sleepless nights and peace of mind.

Do you expect the best or the worst to happen?

Life can feel challenging, unpredictable, and sometimes scary. You may be dealing with some situations that feel uncomfortable and staying positive and trusting is not so easy. I know the feeling!

Struggle and suffering is self-inflicted. When you are feeling fear, your attention is focused on the future or rehashing the past. Energy goes where you focus the most attention.

Breathe, get present in your body, get grounded, and anchor into the arms of your Divine. Worry, fear, anxiety dissipates when you reconnect with the inner Presence.

Counting physical objects exercise  to bring you back into the present

This exercise takes several minutes. While it appears to be very simple, the effect is quite powerfull.

Put your attention (rest your eyes) on an object in your immediate environment. Keep your attention on that object for 3-5 seconds (without thinking about what it is!) and count the number 1 out loud. Repeat this and choose different objects, placing your attention for several seconds on each one as you count up to 20 objects. Notice how you feeling when you are done.

Are you creating sacred space to be still and listen? You have an internal GPS, the voice of God, your IAM Presence that is continually speaking to you; to guide you towards living a more joyfull and prosperous life. You are either following the fears of your ego or the love of your soul. One holds you hostage. The other liberates you.

What part of you are you empowering to lead your life?  Your captor or liberator?

Stop listening to your ego/mind! It does not have the answers you seek or the wisdom to lovingly guide you.

Your ego only sees life as full of problems and obstacles to solve.

Your soul sees life as abundantly rich of possibilities and potential. Your soul see the grand vision and design for your life!

One small inner shift can create a ripple of change in your life. Continue to invest in your inner growth and transformation. It is one of the most important investments you can make to live a beautiful present and glorious future.

Today expect the best.

Listen to the whispers of your soul for guidance and direction. Tune your grate-full eyes to see all this is rich, loving, and meaning-full in your life. You are NOT alone. The Presence walks with you. The stronger your bond is with the Divine, the more Grace you will experience. The best is yet to come!  ♥

As events in our world accelerate, and transformation occurs with more speed and gusto, do you have the kind of help you need to PROCESS through the emotional upheavals and life challenges to create the breakthroughs you are ready to make?

I am still accepting applications for my upcoming Soul Circle group, that will be starting soon. The group is almost half full and with only 4 seats left.

When you have people who:

Feed your heart and support you in building a strong inner foundation to weather any of life’s challenges….

Want what you want for yourself (and more) and celebrate both your victories and failures without judgment…..

Help you expand your perspective of limitation to see exciting possibilities you may have missed.. and who invite you to embrace your brilliance…

Having what you need for the next breakthrough can make the difference between struggling and soaring. Your deepest dreams can move from an idea to a reality, a challenge to a triumph when you have a team of kindred spirits to help you stay the course!

Following your resonance and inner wisdom in partnership with the Divine is the essential shift necessary to thrive in this Golden Age. Your soul would not guide to say yes to something beyond your reach. TRUST That!

To see the full details and apply for your seat, click here

Love and blessings,

Lorraine

PS. When people work with me, breakthroughs and shifts happen. Are you ready for one (or more)?

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Turning Negative Self-Talk Into Love

“Your beliefs become your thoughts. Your thoughts become your words. Your words become your actions. Your actions become your habits. Your habits become your values. Your values become your destiny.”– Mahatma Gandhi

Your Self-Talk

Have you ever paid attention to the conversations you are having in your head?

Your self talk gives voice to what you believe about yourself, others, the world…  All that internal chatter can either help you or hinder you to lead a happier, prosperous life.

Your self-talk echoes the beliefs you have come to accept as TRUE, such as worst case scenarios, things that happened in the past you expect to repeat, and what ifs. If your self-talk is compelling enough, you can scare yourself into action or immobility.

Internally - it is the constant commentary inside your head.

Externally – it is the comments you make about yourself and what’s going on around you to friends, family, and everyone you come in contact with.

Your self talk can be supportive (empowering, makes you feel good) or non-supportive (deflating, makes you feel bad).

When we believe the things we tell ourselves, “It’s going to be too hard. What if I make a mistake? I’m not good enough”, we can feel confusion, anger, fear, stress…. When we believe the negative things we tell ourselves about who we are, we our world might become one of lack, pain, & struggle.

Noticing your internal commentary is an important key in taking steps to change beliefs and create new realities. The more you recognize that you are NOT the story you are identifying with and telling others, you can free yourself to shift into empowered choice and action.

The Power of Language (excerpt from Aligning With Destiny program)

When you become aware of the language you are using unconsciously, you can intentionally choose to shift the energy to a more expansive way of expressing, thus raising your vibrations to align with manifesting what you want.

Common ways we use language to create pain:

Notice how some of the language is creating undesired states of being through violent suggestions and untruths that our bodies. How often do you think and say things that begin with these words? Repeat the words below and feel into your body as you say them out loud.

•    I don’t have time to….
•    I’m starving to death
•    My head is killing me
•    You make me sick
•    This person/situation is driving me crazy
•    “You made me…” (blaming others for your reaction)
•    My life would be better if only…(excuses and rationalizations)
•    I am…
•    I’m the type of person who…
•    I can’t afford to…
•    I can’t…
•    It’s too hard…
•    I’m sick and tired of…

How do you feel? Do the words feel constrictive or expansive?

We manifest what we give the most energy and attention to. If you are using words that create pain and constriction, you will make them your reality.

Shifting Language

Shifting language includes recognizing that how you schedule your time is a choice based on what your valued priorities are in any situation.

Words like NEVER, ALWAYS, and FOREVER are constrictive and imply absolutes. When you find yourself using these words, ask yourself, “Is what I am thinking, feeling, and saying really true?”

Shifting language is simple and powerful. You can start by replacing constrictive, restrictive or untrue language by challenging yourself to align with your truth.

Instead, you can say things like:

•    Sometimes
•    In some situations
•    I have had experiences when
•    In the past…
•    I have found…
•    It’s possible….

Words like: should, shouldn’t, need to, have to, and “supposed to”… create the illusion that you have a lack of choice.

You don’t

How much vitality and joy do you feel when you do things out of guilt, obligation, or shame because you fear negative consequences. You may be afraid of upsetting others or risking the withdrawal of their love and being punished in some way.

The result is a build-up of resentment, anger and frustration that ultimately becomes self-directed.

Shifting into the language of choice opens the flow to receive more of what you want. Repeat the words below and feel into your body as you say them out loud.

•    I choose to…..
•    It’s ok to…
•    I give myself permission to
•    I allow…
•    I want…
•    I get to…
•    I love to…

How do you feel?

Do the words feel constrictive or expansive?

The mind, when directed by Universal Love (God/Higher Power, one’s Spirit) can be an amazing tool for creating a fulfilling and purposefull life, especially when the mind is allowed to be directed by the heart/Universal Love.

Whether you want a thriving business, greater prosperity, vibrant health, a loving relationship, weight reduction….. your thoughts and words are creating your reality all the time.

Start consciously paying attention to your self talk. Is it positively supportive or non-supportive? What are you repeating to others?

If it’s non-supportive, how can you change your language to be more affirming and accepting?

If you saw yourself through the eyes of love as the Divine sees you, how would your self-talk change?

What would love say?

What would love feel?

What would love think?

What would love do?

Energy goes where attention goes.  Choose the thoughts and words you wish to be the seeds that sprout in the inner garden of your heart. What you plant today and water every day becomes the flowers or weeds of your future.

Want support to help you remember how amazing and powerfull you are especially when life  feels scary?

Thrive like Oprah, Frodo, and Harry Potter with kindred spirits who…

* Feed your heart and support you in building a strong inner foundation to weather any of life’s challenges….

* Want what you want for yourself (and more) and celebrate both your victories and failures without judgment…..

*Help you expand your perspective of limitation to see exciting possibilities you may have missed.. and who invite you to embrace your brilliance…

My new Soul Circle Tele-group begins in March. Only 8 seats. Learn more and apply for your spot here

Love and blessings,

Lorraine

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Compelling Conversation with Robert Scheinfeld, Feb. 5, noon EST. Bust Loose From The Money Game

Join me for an uncommon conversati0n about money and creating your life dreams. Whatever struggles you have been facing with money and anything you have learned about increasing the flow of abundance into your life, come onto this call with an open mind and heart.

Robert Scheinfeld is an author,  speaker and coach for “Spiritual Awakening” and “Consciousness Expansion.”

For 3 decades he searched for The Truth. On his journey, he created many big successes in the traditional sense, but they didn’t provide the True Success he sought. His book, Busting Loose From The Money Games shares what he learned from a pivotal conversation that began with his grandfather when he was twelve that catalyzed a 33 year adventure Robert calls the Treasure Hunt of The Century.

In his journey he discovered what he calls the  Big Picture and the Spiritual Awakening and Consciousness Expansion tools that are part of it, ‘The Busting Loose Model.’” that provides The Teachings to reclaim your natural state of True Power, Wisdom, Abundance, and True Joy.

This call may blow your mind and bust you out of a mental box. That’s why I am so excited to bring Robert to you

I encourage you to attend the call live. If you can’t, you will receive the link to download the mp3 recording.

Register here

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The Courage To Say “No”

“A ‘No’ uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a ‘Yes’ merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble.” - Mahatma Gandhi

Cultural and childhood conditioning powerfully influences what you think, feel and do to “earn” love. Without feeling the freedom to express your authentic heart, you give your power away when you say yes or no out of fear or guilt.

True relationships are not that fragile. They can withstand the truth without suffering the loss of love.

Conflict is a powerfull way to foster a strong relationship with another. In the willingness and ability to resolve the “messiness” and upset with mutual respect, love, and honesty, trust is built.

When you mess up, own it. Tell the truth to yourself and claim your humanness. Make amends to others when appropriate to clean your stuff up. You will feel better inside when you restore inner and personal integrity.

It may require a lot of courage and self-love to say YES to yourself when you are used to living in sacrifice because you have been taught that’s’ what “good people” do. At first saying no may feel uncomfortable. People may not react well and take your no personally.

How others react is part of THEIR journey and your service to their growth. It is not your job to please others and be responsible for their happiness. It’s theirs.

Within my own circle of friends, I am blessed to feel safe and loved to BE me. My friendships are rock solid and we feel the freedom to be real without hesitation. We hold nothing back and when there is any conflict, it is cleared in a matter of minutes without taking things personally.

It has taken time to build deep trust with each other. There can still be moments when I shake inside to say something to them that feels scary and vulnerable.

We value our friendship more than the need to be right or to hide behind past pain. We have all been on a spiritual path and have done enough inner work to show up for each other in love. It’s very liberating!!

When you begin to love and value yourself, you will attract people into your life who love and value themselves and want to be with kindred spirits like you.

I believe we all want to feel free to be who we are and to feel loved in whatever way we show up. Setting boundaries can be done lovingly and firmly. A yes given with joy and love is much richer than one that is given from guilt and fear.

Be willing to create the relationships you yearn for by healing your heart. When you release your past burdens, you will liberate your True Self!

Love and blessings :D

Lorraine

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Claim Your POWER. Liberate Your True Self!

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Feeling obligated, responsible, and manipulated into doing something you don’t want to do through fear or guilt makes life painfull. You feel you have to, you must, you should because if you don’t you will lose something you deeply care about - love, approval, friendship, money..

Without feeling you have a choice to say yes or no on your own terms inhibits your personal freedom to be powerfully and exquisitely YOU.

Is your life ruled by have fear-filled tos or empowered choices? If you are tolerating any situation because of fear, take an honest look at the TRUTH.

Whose life are you living? Yours or someone else’s?

It takes courage and an act of self-love to show up for yourself.

Where are you giving your power away? As you give yourself permission to reClaim your Self, you serve others to do the same. Love is freedom. Perhaps this is part of your life purpose…

Whatever is happening in your life, the one choice you always retain is how you interpret your experiences. Your perception determines how you experience every moment - inner prison or freedom?

You have great power within you. You always have. You always will. And within this power is great love and compassion as well as great courage and inner strength. Live life with the innocence of a child and the courage of a lion. This is your time to shine ♥

Love and blessings,

Lorraine

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