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Playing The “What If? Game


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Fear can have a powerfull negative impact on our lives especially when it spirals into dread that grows from anticipated unknown  or troubling possibilities.

Our imagination can run wild with vivid details that can chain us to a life that is unwanted an unhappy.

The fact is no one can scare us better than we can. Most “what ifs” focus on worse case scenarios…”What if I lose my job?” or “What if I can’t pay my bills?” or “What if someone gets angry at me?”

Years ago I was having coffee with a colleague and the topic of fear came up. He asked me about one of my fears and I answered, “I have a fear of losing everything and being out on the street living as a homeless woman or a bag lady.”

He challenged me to heighten that fear and suggested the following scenario:

Imagine that I found myself in a town where I knew no one, had no money, no clothes except the ones I was wearing, no family, and no friends. As if I was just dropped there and had nothing except myself. He asked, “What would you do?”  I could feel the panic beginning to escalate and I didn’t want to play.

After my initial shock, my answers began to pour out. I said, “The first thing I’d do is look for work. I would accept any kind of job I could get to earn immediate cash. Then I would look for some place to sleep, any shelter that felt safe.”

The more I talked about what I would do, the calmer I felt. This “what if” scenario reminded me that I’m a thriver and willing to do whatever it takes to land on my feet. I always have and reminding myself of my abilities, tenacity, and courage was comforting. Whew!

In the same situation, what would you do?

Playing the “What if?” game can help to expose the truth about your fears so that you can claim responsibility for what you will do if the worst happens. You can realize that these horrific situations are more manageable than you imagined. AND you can also see that many of the things you imagine never, ever happen!

Our negative fears view life through a narrow lens and eliminate creative options and solutions. This game can help to expand your viewpoint and invite you to see things from a fresher perspective.

Here’s how to play:

Make a list of the specific fears that occupy your thoughts and might keep you up at night. After each “what if?” write down what you would do if your worse fears actually came true. Describe in detail what would happen and what you could do about it. Consider your options, resources, support, people….

After you’ve done that exercise, consider the opposite position

Make a list of all the best scenarios you can imagine. In other words, “what if everything you ever desired, dreamed about, yearned for…. happened.”

  • What would you do?
  • Would you be able to receive all this good with open arms?
  • Who would you become?

I recommend journaling your feelings and observations. Reflect on what you learned about yourself that can become your growing edge.

And remember that in every moment, you do not walk alone. The Divine is always with you as your life partner in creating a joy-filled abundant life!

Have a great day :D



Invitation To A Spiritual Support Circle - Is it Something You Want and Need?

Below is an email I sent people on my subscriber list.

Dear Friends

With all that is happening in the US and in the world, I know many people are very concerned and fearful about their future. They worry about their 401K’s, their homes, their jobs, investments, and what else is going to happen that will rock their world. They worry, “Will I be ok? Will my family be ok?” They are focused on all they have lost and what more is at risk. They feel out of control and are asking, “What do I do? How do I stay positive with all of this uncertainty?”

These are questions many are asking everyday and striving to stay upbeat and positive. And we are human…..

As many of you know, I am a spiritual ordained minister and have been an interfaith Rev. Dr. for 20 years. I’m blessed with a strong spiritual support system that helps me to stay strong when I feel vulnerable and shaky.

Having support to be heard, express what you feel, and shift perspective to regain your faith, trust, and inner strength makes a huge difference when you feel yourself slipping into fear and pain. It’s a lifeline back to our spirit and the Divine - remembering who we are! We shift from feeling like a victim of our circumstances and reclaim our power to become the creators of our destiny.

Do you have that?

Would you value having spiritual support?

For days I have been feeling an inner nudge to offer my services to you in the form of a spiritual circle.

My invitation:

The intention of this circle is provide a space to be authentic, heard, and spiritually supported in any way you might need or want. You can talk about anything that is on your mind. My goal is to support you in regaining your emotional and spiritual strength so that that you can thrive though this powerful period of change. I’ll share spiritual guidance, tips, and meditations, and you will experience the power of group support!


1. Weekly Wednesday meetings for one hour via a teleconference line. Calls will alternate between lunchtime EST and 4pm EST to accommodate as many people in different time zones to be available to make the calls. The meetings will begin Nov. 5 and continue through the end of 2008.

2. To gain benefit from this circle, you must call in. It will not be recorded.

3. There is no charge for this group support. Donations are acceptedthrough Paypal

4. Show up on the calls when you can and need. You are not required to commit to each call.

5. Your attendance will determine the continuation of this group support. If this is a value for you, you must make time to show up for the call.

** Please note - this is NOT a coaching group to help you grow your business.** 

I sent this email out this morning and 22 people have already responded and it’s Saturday! That tells me the need and desire is there to have this support NOW.

If this invitation is of value to you, click here to sign up to receive emails about this group. Everyone is welcome.

I look forward to hearing from you and being of service to you




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